Archived "Suggestion Circles" Birth to 6 Months: Topic="Who Raises the Kids?"
Random order responses to the "Circle" question per Jean Clarke's book
( Archived ) Circle Question
WHO RAISES THE KIDS?
My husband didn't handle a situation with our toddler as I thought he should have. What can I do?
Say, "This disturbs me. When can we talk about it?"
Say, "Our kid is important. I think he needs a dad who does... "
Both of you have different opinions. If it's not harmful to the child, let the disagreement slide.
Choose a calm time, and then tell your husband you are upset. Give him examples of what you would like him to do instead and why.
Write him a note that says you don't have all the answers but that you want to talk about the incident and how you feel about it.
Say, "It's your right to choose, but I want you to know my feelings about.. . "
Compliment your spouse when you like what he does.
Read child development articles pertaining to your baby's stage of development, and show the articles to your husband. Let him know you are still learning, too, or ask him to read the article or book and discuss it afterward.
I don't think it hurts kids to have parents disagree about little things. They'll sort it out.
Take a parenting class together to help you decide on mutual goals.
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